i've been writing lots about love lately. noticed that? hihi august seems to be my love month after all. #alammoyan so, here's another topic for you guys.
To tell you quite honestly, i am hesitant to post this because it WAS contradicting to my stories before. but since i learned a lot from those past experiences, here i am sharing with you guys the lessons and realizations that I got from them. ready?
Here's the mind-bugging question now: why do most people prefer being MU (mutual lovers) over being an official couple?
here are some reasons why:
1. Strict parents.
or, could be,gusto ng parents na magfocus muna sa studies. I guess this one's the safest yet the lamest reason that I used to hear. first of all, kung talagang nagmamatter sayo ang words ng parents mo, you won't get into any relationship that would entail intimacy. gets? edi sana lahat ng tao sa paligid mo, you treat them equally. no one's treated in a special way over the others. wala kang lovelife. definitely. pure friends lang lahat. hindi it's complicated ang status mo. wala kang katext every day and every night. (pero meron e) para kapag tinanong ka ngn parents mo ng 'anak, may boyfriend ka na ba?' sasagot ka naman ng 'wala pa' diba ang hirap nyan? you choose to deny your feelings kasi bawal umamin? a no-no! eto lang ha, you can never be a good daughter/son and a good lover at the same time. there'll always be time when you'll have to choose on which side to put your loyalty to.
2. Focus sa studies
ayaw ng commitment and focus sa studies? WEH?? kaya ba okay lang na malate ang review time, wag lang malate ang reply sa kanya? (relate??) mas matagal magkausap kesa mag aral? ganyan? ganyan na ba ang focus ngayon? ang alam ko sa focus, you are directed straight ahead. no side glance, well, you can have that, but you do not actually entertain the thought or the feeling kasi nga you have your priority (not priorities.) put first things first. if that's love na talaga, you'll wait for you to be both ready. kung mahal ka nyan. hihintayin ka nyan. agree?
3. ayaw ng commitment.
di ko to gets why. some said, mas mahirap daw kapag official na. so ano to? testing the water forevs? you act as couple pero may compromise na bawal maging kayo? or you choose na wag maging kayo? bakitttt?? para walang gastos sa celebration ng monthsary and anniversary? ugh. lame yan uy! hahahha or, seriously, you ain't ready for the responsibility? big word? yes. RESPONSIBILITY. ayan. big word na talaga. why? don't you trust yourself enough to handle a relationship? really, what do you boys (yeah, not men) get in this? is this the lose less get more kind of a relationship where you exert less effort yet treated equally as an official boyfriend? #patawadsatinamaan hoy ha! grow some balls! you don't kiss the girl and tell everyone na nanliligaw ka pa lang! ano yan? easy access to wealth or advance claiming a prize? hihi #patawad there's a thin line between MU and courtship. learn how to separate those two.
if you're in this situation, you can't really say na di ka committed. why? commitment is not defined by the label of the relationship, but by the feelings you invest on your relationship. #word o ha, personal yan. agree?? no matter how you try to deny it, the fact that you get yourself attached to soomeone, you get yourself committed. yay or nay? why not make official na lang? since yan na yung level nyo? wouldn't it be easier and less complicated if you get to claim something that's entitled to you already? see the analogy?
4. fear of heartbreak.
sadhgkjfhksdjhsdjhfk;sfjg; lang sa may ganitong rason.kung totoong di ka makakaexperience ng heartbreak sa MU, aba! mag MU-han na lang tayong lahat! hay. patawad na po ngayon pa lang sa mga susunod kong masasabi. HOY! kung ayaw mong masaktan, wag kang mag invest ng feelings! maglaro ka na lang! yan ang sinasabi ko sayo e. papasok ka sa MU tapos masasaktan ka? you are entitled to be hurt oy! kasama yan sa package. pero walang warranty and walang karapatan magselos at magreklamo. ayan kasi. ayaw pa ng official e. lol nasa kontrata yan. kidding aside, you don't get into this kind of relationship with the guarantee of not having your heart broken. and to tell you honestly again, the pain or heartbreak that one experience from this is much worse than that coming from a break up. know why? coz it was clearly your choice to put yourself in that situation. you know you could've done better but you chose to save your pride instead. and then sing this song, 'what happened to us? we were almost there' (song: almost by Tamia)
5. committed na sa iba.
ooopsss. relate? tapusin na yan. sakit sa ulo lang yan. hahaha seriously, here's a word: you can never love two persons at the same time at the same degree.
writer's note: my blog. my opinion. peace y'all :) by the way, malabo ba? oo nga no? parang pro's and con's of the MU relationship ang peg. hayaan mo na, ako din nalabuan e. :)
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