ano ba tayo? paki DTR nga!

Hiiii!!   I am supposed to be studying for my quiz and long practical exam tomorrow, but here i am, writing another mushy and  eklavern post. Hehe i was just thinking a lot about this DTR thing. Korek! That’t the topic! DTR—as in define the relationship. Lol. See, mushy topic indeed. Haha wala lang, i just find the topic too confusing and too mainstream lately. Alam nyo naman ako, may pagkapakialamera sa mga tao. Hihihi :D patawad!

So, yun nga, expound natin. Ikaw ba, have you been into a relationship wherein you yourself is not fully aware (naks!tulog lang??) or knowledgeable (medyo formal, scratch that) or sure about what you and your partner (partner na nga ba?) have? Nako! Basahin mo to dali! Loljk. Yung mga tipong you yourselves know that you’re attracted to each other, or you treat each other differently among others, or to the point that you guys actually act as couple but then deny each other once asked about your relationship. Wow ha! It’s complicated na medyo saksak puso! Meron din naman na, vocal sila about there feelings towards each other, and expressive sa kung anuman ang meron sila para sa isa’t isa, but when asked, sasabihin, “we’re just friends.” Minsan, defensive pa, ‘ganun lang talaga sya.’ Sometimes di ko din alam kung ako ba yung niloloko nila or sarili na lang din nila para di mag assume. Oh well, i can’t blame them, especially yung mga girls, who wouldn’t want to look like they’re claiming something unofficial. Hihi hashtag alamnyoyan

And eto na nga, dito na tayo sa part na magulo. Yung thrilling part. Thrilling kasi kahit malalim na ang gabi e, para kang nakainom ng isang litrong kape dahil di ka makatulog sa kakaisip ng mga moments nyoo together and ikaw sa sarili nagtatanong kung ano ba yung ginagawa nya sayo, or ano ba yung mga sinasabi nya sa yo at gaano kadalas ba syang ganun sa yo? Funny no? I have lots of friends, (as in A LOT OF THEM) who have undergone this already. Hahaha sige lang girls, ideny nyo, FO tayo! Sure na! Loljk. Well, uso nga kasi yang mga ganyan. Sa age ba naman natin, sarap kaya kiligin! Aminin! Then some would not initially tell their friends pa, hihintayin niyang kusang mapansin ng friends nya yung mga abnormal (patawad!) nyang kilos. Hahaha may ganyan e. Madami sila! :D peace! Then once asked, eto na naman sina linyang patay malisya: ‘friends lang kami’ ‘ganyan talaga yan’ ‘wala, nagtetext lang, grabe naman kayo.’ Oh! Tamaan ng kidlat ang magdedeny. Lol. I, myself, ganyan ako e. Ganyan style ko J care mo? Haha joke.

Here comes the question: friends nga lang ba?But, friends don’t treat each other like that! Lol. Makapag english lang.  Teka, how do you define friends and friendship by the way? Ang alam ko sa friends, di naman kailangang palaging magkatext, (unless, clingy kayo.lol) or di naman dapat nag uupdate sa mga whereabouts, or doesn’t act as if he/she owns you. Pakak! Kamusta checklist mo? Bingo ba? Hahaha :D oha, confused ka na? Bakit? Lagi mo ba katext? Palagi bang kayong dalawa yung magkasama kahit may iba ka namang circle of friends? Lagi ka niyayaya maghang out somewhere na kayo lang? Laging may damoves? Nako, wag na wag kang makadeny na di mo alam ang damoves ha! Babae ka! Kapag naconfuse ka na at nagstart magtaka sa mga kinikilos nyan, pak! Right time to ask na about DTR before ka pa mafall sa kanya at di na makabangon muli. Want that? Hahaha no diba? Or, gusto mo mag go with the flow na lang? (which is too mainstream now, really) Don’t get me wrong ha, im not against those who prefer that kind of relationship, syempre kung saan ka masaya at ano ang deserve mo, dun ka! Walang basagan ng trip! :D 

o, teka, confused ka pa? Wait, ganito nga yon, after all the sweet nothings you guys have shared,  you’ve reached the point of curiosity (finally!) about the real status of your relationship. Problem that may arise is that, mapride ka (mapride talaga??) in a way na you don’t want to be the first one to open the topic. Common yan sa girls. J of course, girls have reservations. We have this kind of thinking na, ayaw namin ng kami yung mauuna or magiinitiate na pag usapan yung whatever it is that we share. Guys are basically the ones responsible for it. Syempre, sila naman madalas yung nauunang magbigay ng motibo e, so, definitely, sila yung magbigay ng label! Right?! So there. Settled. J

another problem about that, what if walang plano si guy na linawin or lagyan ng label yang status nyo at prefer nya yung go with the flow na lang? EHEM EHEM. Wag guilty kung natatamaan ka. J  then, this is where your pride needs a little challenge and justiceJ  kumbaga, sort of letting some of your guards down, BUT,  trying to pull up your standard and defense. It’s something risky coz it takes a two-way process. When you initiate the conversation about, you better be firm about your stand and what you want in the first place regardless of what his decision may be. Hindi yung, ang lakas ng loob mong pag usapan nyo yan and magdecide kung ano kayo, but in the end, wala kayong nasettle. This entails a lot of courage and openness to what his take about  your relationship is. Hirap no? Ganun talaga! Hahahha harsh! You have to decide on how to set things straight and do something about it with consistency and precision. (naks! Scientific and mathematical terms oh!) but seriously, get straight to the point. If your precise about the friendship, then act as friends, and do it consistently. Hindi yung sa simula, malinaw na friends lang then eto ka na naman, confused kasi sweet na naman sya. One thing girls, kung medyo lumilihis ng landas si koya, (KOYA TALAGA!)  at may pahiwatig na naman, ibriefing mo ulit. Hahaha :D wag na mag padala. Okay? Para ka lang nadadapa at lumubog ka pa lalo at inenjoy ang putikan. Got my metaphor? Remember: mas masakit yan itigil kapag tumagal na J believe me, kapag paulit ulit mo na yan ginawa, magegets nya na yan J hehe basta, you have to stand firm on your decision pangatawanan mo yan. Pinili mo yan e. Haha

another problem: what if ayaw ng both parties mag DTR? Ewan ko naman kung anong isssue sa childhood meron ang mga ganito, but, whatever it is, BAHALA SILA. Nakikichismis ka na nga lang, makikialam ka pa? Care mo ba kung gusto nilang maging sweet sa isat isa then pag ayaw na, ayawan na lang. Simple. Ichika mo na lang. Hahaha joke. Bahala sila. Own world nila yan. Let’s leave it to them J abang na lang tayo pag awkward stage na sila. Hahaha

ano na ba talaga kasing status nyo? DTR na yan! Lol tapos share mo sakin J

paano ba yan friends? Nakarelate ka ba? Kung hindi, sorry, nasayang ko oras mo J kung oo, i hope you got something J

So yun! Wala nakong masabi pa ulit. Medyo nasabaw pako sa long exam namin sa anatomy e kaya medyo walang sense yan. Hihi til next babies! *wink* :*